1. Use your 'Fitnah' (beauty
and overtures of allurement) to win the heart of your husband.
All women have the ornaments that Allah
blessed them with. Use the beauty Allah - Azza wa Jal - has bestowed you
with to win the heart of your husband.
2. When your husband comes
home, greet him with a wonderful greeting.
Imagine your husband coming home to a clean house, an exquisitely dressed
wife, a dinner prepared with care, children clean and sweet smelling, a clean
bedroom - what would this do to his love for you? Now imagine what the
opposite does to him.
3. Review the
characteristics of the Hoor Al-Ayn and try to imitate them
The Qur'an and Sunnah describe the
women in Jannah with certain characteristics. Such as the silk they wear,
their large dark eyes, their singing to their husband, etc. Try it, wear silk
for your husband, put Kohl in your eyes to 'enlarge' them, and sing to your
husband.
4. Always wear jewellery and
dress up in the house.
From the early years, little girls have
adorned themselves with earrings and bracelets and worn pretty dresses - as
described in the Qur'an. As a wife, continue to use the jewellery that
you have and the pretty dresses for your husband.
5. Joke and play games with
your husband.
A mans secret: they seek women who are
light-hearted and have a sense of humour. As Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi
wa sallam - told Jabir to marry someone who would make him laugh and he would
make her laugh.
6. Thank your husband
constantly for the nice things he does. Then thank him again.
This is one of the most important techniques, as the opposite is a
characteristic of the women of hellfire.
7. An
argument is a fire in the house. Extinguish it with a simple 'I'm sorry' even
if it is not your fault.
When you fight back, you are only
adding wood to the fire. Watch how sweetly an argument will end when you just
say sincerely, "Look, I'm sorry. Let's be friends."
8. Always seek to please
your husband, for he is your key to Jannah.
Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa
sallam - taught us that any women who dies in a state where her husband is
pleased with her, shall enter Jannah. So .. please him.
9. Listen and Obey!
Obeying your husband is Fard! Your
husband is the Ameer of the household. Give him that right and respect.
10. Make Dua to Allah to
make your marriage and relationship successful.
All good things are from Allah. Never
forget to ask Allah ta'ala for the blessing of having a successful marriage
that begins in this Dunya and continues on - by the Mercy of Allah ta'ala -
into Jannah.
